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Balancing Your BDSM Lifestyle and Everyday Life

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Finding Your BDSM Balance

Good Afternoon from Nippley Texas! Yes, the freeze has settled in, and so has this chilly ole gal.  Here’s a snapshot of today at The Casa de Kinky .. there’s a fire burning in the front parlor, chili simmering on the stove, and the slut husband is tinkering in the hobby room. To the outside world, we two are the very picture of domestic bliss – and early retirement.

BDSM Behind Closed Doors  

What a person outside of our BDSM Lifestyle won’t notice, is the subtle dynamic of Power Exchange– that permeates our home. There is no way of anyone knowing, that the burly block of a man soldering points on a circuit board, has a plug up his slut ass, and thigh highs underneath of his jeans. 

We have learned that it takes so little to keep the kink alive in our loving relationship, and that every time we play – doesn’t have to be a 3-ring circus that ends with a grand finale. 

Admittedly, some days, you just have to get on with the drudgeries of life – but in our household, it’s done with physical reminders of my submissive’s servitude, keeping the balance – true. 

The Truth About 24/7 BDSM 

Oy! Who would have the energy to maintain a 24/7 D/s partnership? To be responsible for making every decision, on status alone – seems so counterproductive.

Don’t we all look for certain qualities, when choosing a mate, be it `nilla or an alternate way of life? Searching for those qualities that can off-set your own weaknesses, can and will forge a stronger partnership. 

I Am The MFWICH 

I am The Boss. I am The Final Word.

I am the Muther Fucker What’s In Charge Here 

But I didn’t get here alone. I had the support, intelligence, and council of the one person in the world I can always trust, to serve and protect.  

And that my friends, is the foundation of forever – trust.

 

He who gives great service gets great rewards.

He who gives great service gets great rewards.

D/s Fem Dom Vivian. Celebrating 7 Years of Erotic Entertainment!

A Fem Domain Blast From The Past 2008 

 

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11 comments to Balancing Your BDSM Lifestyle and Everyday Life

  • Good morning, Miss Vivian,
    Thank you for this thoughtful reminder of all the things I have learned since meeting the two of you.
    Lov Ya,
    P

  • magnus

    Hi Miss Vivian. I really liked this. 24/7 is not something I’d ever want to do either. I don’t have it in me and need some alone time every once in a while. I like the outside appearances part. I really wonder what neighbors would think if they knew what kinds of things I love. And then I also wonder if they like kinky things too but feel, as I do, that it’s not usually a good thing to bring them up out of the blue.

    • I know what you mean mags! I don’t mind anyone knowing that I am an Erotic Entertainer … but unless they notice the hooks in the beams, they are none the wiser what we do for fun.

  • wellspanked

    Even though my wife prefers that I “take the lead” in bed. And getting her butt pink makes her wetter than pinkening mine. I can still play the submissive in our lives. I can cook, and clean, and rub her feet, and not complain or whine. From the outside I can appear the “strong male head of household”, but the reality is she is my strength. If it weren’t for her I would hardly be motivated to get out of bed in the morning.

    mmmm, I live to serve

    • awww well-spanked, that is one of the loveliest comments I have seen in a long time. You are both, like roy and I, fortunate to have found someone to be ourselves. Thank you for sharing

  • I admit, I got the same sort of image in my head that Piper had…the roytoy plugged and appropriately attired, playing with his smart boy stuff (taking apart a computer, perhaps building a fembot…you never know!) The Casa de Kinky sounds perfect this chilly afternoon.

    You already know this, but you two are a very lucky pair. I don’t think many subs (or Mistresses!) realize the level of commitment a true, 24/7 D/s relationship demands. Did things just “click” for you two right away, or did you ease into this partnership?

  • Lena

    Ms.Viv you painted a great picture with your hubby. It must be nice to be able to maintain kink easily in your home.Trust is really required to sustain this type of relationship. I find it so rewarding to build this in my own D/s home.

  • Ms. Vivian, In every relationship on has to have the upper hand. Sometimes changing roles tend to keep the intimacy and kinkiness flame burning. I know, who would have that much energy? And yes, we do look for certain qualities in a relationship and it takes a lot of effort to keep it real.

    • Hey Miss Cindy. Truth be told, I haven’t bottomed in 18 years.That last time, roy and I were still long distance and on this visit – he accumulated enough good boy points to make a wish.
      Well he got his 2 hours of time at the Top. He finished using me whilst I was hanging from a crane, then threw me over his office desk and fucked me But GOOD …
      I remember thinking – oh no – we can’t go down this path again .. I might never want to come back.

  • I just laughed out loud imagining your hubby soldering circuit boards with a plug up his bum and thigh highs hugging his legs. You NEVER know what someone is into, do you?

    I agree that the beauty of edgy and kinky play is the intimacy it builds. You’re never so naked as when you’re a man in thigh highs with your pussy plugged, and the two of you are very lucky to have found someone to compliment you! 🙂

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