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Many of my callers on Cock Control ask about my life as a real time Mistress and Trainer, so I dug up some of my writings about the subject.  I will be adding these essays to the blog throughout the coming year, and hope you will enjoy a peek inside the mind and methods of a serious Fem Dom.

What The Heck Is Training?

I’ve been asked what it is a Top can do, when attempting to control a gent – either in the flesh, or from afar. From afar is most successful if the couple is able to make regular visits - with Internet and phone communication as support for long- distance (LD)Training. I can’t imagine taking the time to even interview a male, if his own goals don’t include actual real time contacts. Too many times D/s LDs get complacent or funds are tight and the end is made even more painful, by dragging out the inevitable break-up.

Good and clear negotiating with options for change along the way, seems to keep most any relationship on track, be it kinky or`nilla.

Over the years I have established some small amusing tasks, or “assignments” for those in my care. Along with a willing houseboy, there can be real and fun Training using cyber communication to shore up the face- to- face meetings. There is also much to be said for the weeks between meetings to keep the imagination sparking. Hot phone conversations or messenger chat can be great fun and keep you connected and thinking of each other.

And then there are the assignments, given out with great care for the trainee’s home life, job and Family. Being judicious and available when attempting some new Training can save missteps that might morph into back-steps in a houseboy’s Training. Communication and Control are Powerful tools and both can bring a heady dimension to the Top and bottom.

The Following are guidelines I have developed and still use when I am actively searching for some lovely gent to Train. The male that fits best for me is one I can mold to become more attractive and skilled for a serious FemDom – and then encouraging and aiding them to seek a life partner. Catch and Release will always fit my needs best.

I believe my methods are simple and fun with the focus on what each individual needs to be happiest.

Never settle for less – when choosing a playmate or life partner.

The Interview
Hard Limits
SSC or RACK

First Assignment
The Notebook
The Rules
The Prime Directive

Second Assignment
Manners
Grooming

Third Assignment

Tributes
The First Meeting
Social Service
Dating a FemDom